Have you ever felt uncomfortable being
around someone simply because you know very well that they aren’t being
themselves? That every single sentence that comes out of their mouth is a lie in
order to impress you? Don’t you just hate it?
Because of these experiences I’ve
personally had with people, I wanted to make sure that before I teach myself
everything about elegance, I must first and foremost learn how to be elegant
from within before walking around balancing a book on my head lol.
So how can I be elegant from the inside?
Self-Confidence.
So how can I be self-confident?
For several weeks I’ve been researching on
what exactly are the main points I should take into account in order to improve
on my inner elegance.
It all came down to the 3 F’s: Filtering, Focusing and Finding
Firstly cleanse your surroundings, just like
how water is filtered, you must filter toxic people from your life. People who
make you feel inferior, people who throw words at you to bring you down and people
who do not wish to see you succeed. I’m not saying unfriend them on Facebook
and unfollow them on twitter and Instagram, or ignore their messages. I mean
try to stay away from them and start being around people who make you feel good
about yourself, people who have goals and ambitions. Those people bring out
that unique and special person you really are!
Focusing:
Focusing:
Stop thinking about your problems and your
regrets, look forward. Instead focus on solutions to your problems and the
goals you wish to achieve. Learn to
forgive yourself and the people around you. Keep looking forward and never
look back because staying in the past wont get you closer to the person you’re
striving to be.
Finding:
Learn to love yourself, learn to see how
beautiful you are, we are all unique in our own way. We all have that one thing
that makes us beautiful, find it! Whether it’s your personality, sense of
humor, talent etc. Learn to express yourself and take pride in the things you
do. Find something that you are good at. There must be something even if it seems
small, others will see it differently, trust me. There are so many times I
would do something and find it normal but the people around me found it amazing
and I looked at them like they’re mental hahaha but later on I learnt to take
pride in the things I do and learnt to accept compliments from other people of
the things I do.
You are beautiful, you are talented, you
are special, there is no one else in the world like you so look in the mirror,
smile and accept you!
Lots of Love
The Girl In The Headscarf
xoxo
xoxo
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